Relocating
to a new area is stressful enough for adults but it is even
harder for children. The thought of making new friends, getting
lost in a new town, going to a new school, or just leaving everything
that has become familiar is extremely frightening for a child.
Here are some techniques to make the transition smoother for
your child:
1.
Let your child know as soon as possible about the upcoming move.
The sooner in advance they know about the upcoming move, the
more time they have to adjust to the change in their lives.
2.
Prior to looking for a home, involve your child. Find out what
they like or dislike about the current home. What kinds of things
they would like to have in the new home. Discuss their new room
and ask how they would decorate it. This will bring excitement
and anticipation to the move.
3.
Do as much prior homework as possible regarding schools, recreational
activities, clubs and organizations where children can become
active and become involved. Your Relocation Counselor can be
a great asset and will be able to save you lots of time. Ask
for contact lists of organizations which offer activities for
children. Encourage your child to become active in activities
as soon as possible after the move. The faster children become
involved with new friends and new activities, the faster they
adjust.
4.
Before you buy, ask your agent to help you find out if there
are other children in the neighborhood in the same age range
as your child. This could impact the neighborhood your are considering.
Driving through the neighborhood after school lets out for the
day will also give you an idea if there are other children in
the area.
5.
If possible, visit your child's new school with them prior to
the move preferably while school is still in session. Speak
with teachers and counselors at the school and find out about
after school programs, sports, clubs and other activities your
child might like to become involved. Find out about the curriculum.
Your child may be able to begin homework prior to the move which
will let them adjust more easily after the move.
6.
It is generally not a good idea to take children on preliminary
home hunting expeditions. Shopping for a home is tiring for
a child and parents sometimes have problems concentrating on
a home's potential if they are worrying about their child's
reaction. Also children sometimes fall in love with a home which
is unacceptable to you for many reasons. Once the home is selected,
begin involving the child in the moving process.
7.
Keep children enthusiastic about the move before, during and
after the moving process. Let them become active in packing
up their room, give them pictures of the home including their
new room and let them decide where their furniture, toys, and
other keepsakes are going to go will give them something to
think about and plan for. Let them help you unpack at the end
of the move. Show them a map of the neighborhood where they
will be living and show them where the nearest parks, movie
theatres and other attractions are located in relation to their
home.
Always
remember to spend as much time with your child prior to the
move and be open to answer questions, address concerns they
may have. If your child is comfortable of moving to
a new environment, the experience will be much more pleasant
for parents as well.